ANGER

ANGER
Anger is a very common experienced and display emotion during teenage years.  All teens and everyone gets angry. Sometimes, its occurrence is understandable and predictable and at other times it comes as a surprise and shock to everyone.

While extreme mood swings and emotional stability are a natural part of the teen years, temper outbursts and aggressive behaviour can be a signs that a young person's anger has reached unhealthy proportions and is not being handled appropriately. Anger occurs in varying degrees of intensity. From mild annoyance to violent rage. It may be hidden and held inward or expressed openly. Anger can be of short duration, coming and going quickly, or it may persist for decades in form of bitterness, resentment or hatred. Anger may be destructive, especially when it persists in the form of aggression, un-forgiveness  or revenge.

The problem many teens and preteens face is that they tend to repress their anger, and as a result, bitterness, rage and anger build up until they explode in brawling, slander, or malice.

These article is written to help teenagers understands and deals with ANGER.

                                      CAUSES  OF ANGER.

There are many reasons anger invades teenager's lives. Anger is triggered by a vast array of emotions and events. Some of the more prominent and significant are frustration, alienation, hurt or threat of hurt, injustice, fear or anger itself as a learned response.

FRUSTRATION.
Frustration results when a teenager's progress toward the attainment of a goal is blocked or interrupted. The level of frustration depends on the importance of the goal, and the size of the obstacle .   The many goals and passions of the teens years and the intensity with which teens desire such things makes many teenagers candidates of severe frustration and therefore, anger. Some of these passions are: being allowed to stay up late to watch movies, going to parties, having fun etc.

ALIENATION.
During the teen years , peer group acceptance and involvement  is vital and important for healthy adjustment to occur. Teenagers are extremely sensitive to any indication of rejection or isolation from other group for from special friends. Such isolation brings not only feelings of loneliness, but deeply felt and grave questions about one's own identity and ultimate value as a human being. When alienation is deeply felt by a teenager, anger reaction are normally expected.

HURT OR THREAT OF HURT

Anger also arises as a reaction to physical or emotional hurt. For an instance, when a teammate elbow a basketball player in the nose, whether it was intentional or not, the player is likely to respond in anger. Another instance is when a parent calls a young person a cruel name, anger will result, though it may be repressed. Also when a dad cancels a much anticipated outing with his daughter, she is apt to be hurt, and that will breed anger. When a is insulted, made fun of, humiliated, ignored, or threatened, he or she will respond with anger, expressed or not.

INJUSTICE.
Injustice is one of the most valid reasons for anger.  Teenagers tend to be strongly idealistic and firmly hold to their value system, imposing that system unto others. They are particularly sensitive to any violations of their ethical code and value system, because such violations symbolically represent encroachments on their development autonomy. Teenagers are also sensitive to perceived injustices that are perpetrated by parents, teachers, political leaders, pastors and other authority figures and are likely to react to injustice with anger, whether the injustice was done to them, a peer, or even a total stranger.

 
FEAR.
Fear may also prompt anger among teenagers. For example, the fear of what other teens are saying about him or her, fear of being embarrassed in class. Such worries and fears may create a high levels of frustration and anger.

 

LEARNING.
Anger may be a learned response in many cases. A teenager may have learned inappropriate way of handling and expressing anger from parents or others in the family or society. He or she may have learned to harbour hostility, to let bitterness build up into rage, and to resent or hate those who are different or express disagreement with him or her. For an instance, two elderly men in south west region of Nigeria, West Africa were seriously beating and given a blow on the face, by a young man simply because he strongly disagree with them on a subject of discuss. The two men ended up in an hospital for medical treatment!.

There are also situations in which the media, present on television and radio role models that are involved in one form of violence or another. They are presented in an attractive, powerful and prestigious way. By watching and listening teenagers becomes more easily angered and more outwardly aggressive.

 

DISCUSSION:

                      DO ALL TEENAGERS GET ANGRY?

Though, there may be individual differences, am of the opinion that all teenagers gets angry. For everyone and teenagers reading along with me on this platform, I would like you to share with me things that gets you angry.