INTRODUCTION:
Everyone wants love and without love, life would be incomplete.
People try in many different ways to discover true love, a love that is strong,
deep, and lasts for all time. Yet the pursuit of love have caused more
heartaches, pain, brokenness and bitterness.
Many teenagers struggle to understand what love is and how they can find
it. Many are willing to give almost anything in order to experience love,
particularly from someone of the opposite sex. To many teens love does
make the world go round. Yet many teens set themselves up for disappointments,
tragic mistakes and miscalculation because they lack a clear
understanding of what love is and what love is not. They confuse real love with
other experiences and emotions.
Many public school teach teenagers sex education and mechanics of sex,
some even teach teenagers how to apply condoms. However they fail
to tell teenagers effective things that will save them
from disappointments and disease that is attached to teenage sex.
WHAT LOVE IS NOT.
Real love isn't the
same as lust.
Love and lust are often confused in the mind of teenagers especially in
the music they listened to and the movie they watch. Love is much more
different from lust. Love gives and lust takes. Love values and lust uses,
love endures and lust subsides.
Real love isn't the same as romance.
Some guys can speak words that make a girl feel so good inside. Some
girls can make a guy feel taller and stronger just by looking into his eye.
Candle light dinners, mood music, slow dances, can make a moment special.
Romance can be wonderful, but its not love. Romance is a feeling, real love is
much more.
Infatuation is a fascination with an intense interest in someone of the
opposite sex. Infatuation can leave a teenager feeling breathless of the
opposite sex. When teenagers talk about 'falling in love' or about 'love at
first sight', they are usually talking about infatuation. Infatuation can be an
overwhelming feeling, but it is not real love.
Sex and love are often confused together as well. The two are
distinct. Love is a process and sex is an act. Love is learned and sex is
instinctive. Love require constant attention, and sex takes no effort. Love
takes time to develop and mature while sex need no time to develop. Love
requires emotional and spiritual interaction, sex requires only physical interaction.
Love deepens a relationship, sex (operating alone) dulls a relationship. Real
love is not the same as lust, romance, infatuation or sex.
What is love.
There are three kinds of love. These are: Love-IF,
Love-Because and Love!
Love If.
Love-if is a kind of love that is given or received when certain
conditions are met. One must do something to earn this kind of love. For
instance, if a child is good, the daddy will love the child. I mean a daddy's
love given, if a child gets a good grade. Love-if always has a strings
attached. As long as the conditions are met, things are fine. However, when
there is a reluctant to meet expectations, for example to have sex, the love is
withdrawn.
Love Because-Of.
Love Because is a kind of love that a person is
loved because of something he or she is, has or does. For instance, I love you
because you're so beautiful. I love you because you are rich. This type of love
is given because of something.
Love.
This kind of love is love without conditions. It is a kind of love that
says , I love you in spite of what the person may be like deep down inside.
True and Real love is not a blind love. It can know a great deal about the
other person's short comings and fault, yet totally accepts the individual
without demanding anything in return.
To be continued ....
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